I made several phone calls the night the Cubs clinched a spot in the World Series. One was to my former little league coach, who was sobbing on the other end of the line. He’s 74, retired to Florida, and recently lost his wife. He’s been a huge Cubs fan his whole life. When the Cubs made it to the World Series for the first time since 1945, he cried.

Another phone call was to a good friend who doesn’t like baseball or the Cubs. She’s not hostile. Just not a fan. I’ll admit I cried that night and was a bit choked up on the phone with her. She was confused by my emotion and said, “I just don’t get why people are so excited about a game.” She wasn’t being mean. This wasn’t mocking. It was a moment of honesty from someone who isn’t a fan of the Cubs or baseball.

In the week after the Cubs clinched, I’ve cried some more. Not full-on weeping, but I’ve gotten choked up. A lot. And I’m not alone. Men all over America have been a little more emotional since the Cubs won the pennant. Why?

Like my friend who isn’t a baseball fan, many think the tears are falling because of happiness about a team’s success. Surely that’s part of it. But that’s not why they’re crying. It’s much more personal than that. There are two reasons and they are closely connected: nostalgia and family.

Nostalgia: Before lights were installed at Wrigley Field in 1988, all Cubs home games were played in the afternoon. That meant kids like me came home from school to the Cubs on TV. Even when school let out in the summer, I’d either see the games on TV or hear them playing on the radio as my dad worked in the garage. I loved Harry Caray and wanted to be him when I grew up (minus the Budweiser). The whole reason I’m in radio is because I struck up a conversation with a minor league baseball broadcaster when I was in high school. He did what Harry Caray did, and I wanted to know more about it. He arranged a radio internship and that launched my radio career.

A big part of my childhood and career featured the Cubs. Thus, seeing them enjoy success reminds me of my childhood. And those are good memories.

Family: The other reason is connected to the first. I never would have watched or listened to Cubs games if my dad didn’t have them on. He came to the mainland from Puerto Rico in 1958 and somehow latched onto the Cubs. He was a quiet man, but would jump off the couch, screaming and clapping when a Cubs player hit a homerun. He loved them.

Growing up I lived a block from my great-grandfather’s house, so I spent a lot of time there as a kid. He too loved the Cubs (though he also watched Sox games) and I spent many afternoons in his den watching the Cubs.

Both my dad and great-grandfather died before being able to see the Cubs win a World Series. My former little league coach’s wife died before she could see one. This, hopefully, explains our tears. They’re not really because of a team’s success (though that’s part of it). They’re really about longing for a return to a childhood that seems so far removed from today’s record murders and political tension. We cry because we miss the loved ones who never got to see this. We miss them and we want them to be here to enjoy it with us.

That’s why so many grown men are crying. And it’s a good thing.

Now my kids watch the games with me. Imagine the thrill when we all jumped up and down, yelling, screaming, and hugging each other when Addison Russell hit the grand slam in Game 6. My children are young and don’t really understand what’s going on. But we’re enjoying this together.

And I fully expect 71 years from now I’ll be gone, my kids will be watching the Cubs in the World Series, and they will be crying. And it will be a good thing.

When seemingly inexplicable tragedy happens people want answers. But the answer to the “why” question is different depending on who is doing the answering. Why do these things happen? Here are 5 thoughts.

  1. Evil is real. This is tough for some people to admit. In fact, it may go completely against their worldview. If you believe completely in Darwinian evolution then it’s impossible to truly call something universally evil. One person’s theft is another person’s score. There are no absolute rules in the animal kingdom and there can’t be in humanity either if there’s not a being in charge of people who can declare something evil. The Bible with its story of God as creator and lover of people, along with humanity’s rebellion, not only allows us to explain the origin of evil but it also allows us to define it. Evil is the result of rebellion against God. The whole world suffers from it. And when a cop shoots a person unjustly or a man plows a truck into a crowd at a holiday celebration, that’s evil.
  2. Politicians can’t get rid of evil. Some think if we just get enough Republicans or Democrats elected, then we can clean this mess up. At times, both parties have had dominant positions in Washington and locally in several states. Evil still exists and flourishes.
  3. New laws can’t get rid of evil. Sure, they can restrain evil. The Bible says the state has “the sword” (Romans 13:4) for good reason. Laws, cops, courts, and armies can all keep evil at bay. But ultimately since the Bible teaches that evil is at work in every aspect of our world (1 John 1:8,10), no law can stop it entirely.
  4. Only Jesus can get rid of evil. The only hope of the world is Jesus. If we want to see less evil then the hearts that contain it need to be changed. When the gospel (God’s good news of salvation) is embraced, God changes a heart so it begins to desire God instead of rebelling against Him. Without God working to change our evil desires we will give in. We may not commit a mass killing, but our lust, gossip, gluttony, greed, and lies are destructive too.
  5. In the end, God completely gets rid of evil. The book of Revelation is a challenging read for anyone. But its big theme is the victory of God over evil and its removal from the world forever. We should long for this day along with John, the writer of Revelation, who says “Come, Lord Jesus.” (Revelation 22:20). Perhaps we need to spend more time focused on our future and living today in light of that.

Even though we’re still waiting for the day when evil will be gone, God gives us little pockets of what it will look like. Some members of Chicago’s Salem Baptist Church took to the streets to pray for police officers in the wake of the Dallas sniper shootings. It’s a powerful show of how God can change hearts. Let’s embrace prayer, God’s love, and the truth of His gospel each and every day.

Target’s decision to allow employees and customers to “use the restroom or fitting room facility that corresponds with their gender identity” is just the latest move in a national conversation on gender that’s boiling over. Target made a strategic business decision designed to win more customers than it loses. Target’s bosses have the right to lead their company as they choose. And customers have the right to shop there or go to Meijer or Wal-Mart. That’s business. But beyond simple commerce there are a few results of Target’s decision that need to be addressed.

  1. It joins those with gender-identity issues with predators. Because of the size of its company, Target’s decision has taken the national discussion to a new level. And within the conversation those dealing with gender dysphoria and predators are mentioned in the same sentence. This is unfair to those genuinely in the midst of gender-identity confusion. These are real challenges faced by many people. Mark Yarhouse has written sensitively and clearly on this in his book Understanding Gender Dysphoria. Instead of creating an atmosphere where people feel “accepted, respected, and welcomed,” Target has unfairly caused a group of people to be even more misunderstood and feared.
  2. It creates more vulnerability for women. Not only does Target’s decision lump predators in with those facing gender-identity confusion within the larger discussion, but it genuinely creates a space for  women to be preyed upon. The University of Toronto discovered this when it designated dorm restrooms and showers gender-neutral. Surprise! Men tried to film women in the showers by putting their cell phones over adjoining stalls. There are bad men out there. Why would Target create a space where these men have easy access to women in intimate spaces?
  3. It ignores Target’s family restrooms. This was a policy that was completely unnecessary. In response to criticism over the decision a Target spokeswoman pointed people who are uncomfortable with the policy to its single-stall family restrooms. But wouldn’t it have been just as easy to allow transgendered employees and customers to use these restrooms instead of inviting them into the larger restrooms?
  4. It may hurt more than it helps. Dr. Paul McHugh is a highly respected psychiatrist from Johns Hopkins. He’s not motivated by religion or political ideology. He’s simply a scientist who says decades of interacting with people who claim to be transgendered has shown him that when people are supported in their transition to their non-biological sex or gender there is often more pain for them and their family. In fact, Johns Hopkins stopped doing gender reassignment surgeries because the psychological outcomes for the patients were so poor. Instead, he encourages supporting these men and women in getting the help they need to stay in their birth gender.
  5. It continues the narrative that gender distinctions don’t matter. This is just the latest policy change in Target’s campaign to erase gender distinctions. The underlying policy downplays the scientific reality of distinctions in sex and gender. Men are men. Women are women. And God created them this way for a reason. I don’t expect Target to make its policies based on the Bible. But Christians need to explain how precious sex and gender distinctions are. God loves people and created them “male and female” in order to allow them to understand how the Father, Son, and the Holy Spirit are in relationship with one another. Certainly theirs is not a sexual relationship. But God creates people equal in value, but different in important ways in order to help us understand Him better. This needs to be celebrated!

 

 

 

Yes, the title of this post is provocative. Blog titles are supposed to be. But let me say immediately that I’m not trying to be disrespectful to the victims of the September 11th attacks or their families. Not at all! But, on this 14th anniversary of the attacks, please don’t say a word about it to me.

This morning I was driving on I-290 listening to a friend’s radio show on Moody Radio Cleveland on my iPhone. As they talked about the anniversary and started recalling some of the details of the heroism and loss, I started to cry. I mean really cry. There I am riding along on the Ike with tears streaming down my face. My heart was hurting. Why?

I think I’m starting to understand how the Greatest Generation feels about Pearl Harbor. For decades they’ve talked about it with tears in their eyes, usually to a generation that really doesn’t want to hear about it. Their emotion still seems fresh. You can see the pain in their eyes. One day in a place that seemed far away, our entire nation was shattered. Not only were many lives lost, but our country’s feeling of invincibility was crushed. Dead people and a rocked worldview have a way of impacting you even decades later. On the 14th anniversary of the attacks, we now have 2 generations of Americans who are removed from that day. I wonder if they are impacted by the story in the same way as people are when a senior talks about the war.

I covered 9/11 as a news reporter in the midst of thousands of people who were trying to get home via trains at Union Station in Chicago. I wasn’t in New York, Pennsylvania, or Washington. No one I know personally died that day. And yet, it hurt and still does.

Please continue to talk about the attacks so those who lost their lives (in the crashes and trying to save people) are never forgotten. They are true heroes. Relay the story so a non-Christian world will know there is such a thing as evil (and offer God as the good alternative). But please don’t talk to me about it. It just hurts too much. I can’t handle it yet. And maybe I’ll never be able to.

I like to laugh. I mean, really laugh. Neither of my jobs require heavy-lifting (props to the landscapers and bricklayers out there), but pastoring and radio work can still be stressful. So, I like to unwind with a good comedy. The problem in recent years is the famine of comedy that’s really funny without being inappropriate. There are family-friendly comedies that really aren’t that funny (in my opinion). So I’m left with crass comedy that makes me laugh a lot, but only as I ignore the subtle whisper of the Holy Spirit, “Cisco, are you sure you should be watching this?”

I ignored the Holy Spirit last week and saw Trainwreck. I had to take our car in for some work and there’s a movie theater right across the street from the shop. How ironic that Trainwreck was starting right as I had two hours to kill. “Surely, God wants me to see this movie!” While everyone else in the theater was laughing out loud, I was having a deeply spiritual experience. Instead of relieving the stress of a busy life, I was engaged in a conversation with God that finally led to me screaming “Uncle!” But it was a movie theater, so I didn’t scream out loud.

Here are three thoughts from a pastor who saw Trainwreck:

1) I’m not that mature. Maybe you’ve said this to yourself, “I’m spiritually mature enough to laugh at the good and ignore the bad in any movie. I can handle this.” I’ve said that to myself a million times and it’s a lie. Every bit of nudity, every crass joke, and every cruel insult enters my brain and never leaves. They slowly numb me so that I am less able to see a clear distinction between what is godly and what is not. It’s a subtle danger that we can try to ignore, but it’s a danger nonetheless.

2) Crass humor isn’t just for boys anymore. Porky’s, Animal House, and so many other movies in the same genre were designed by men and for men. The lead characters telling the jokes were men. It was widely understood that potty humor was for guys (not that it was God-honoring for men, but that’s a discussion for another day). That’s changed. Now, comediennes such as Amy Schumer and Melissa McCarthy (both VERY funny) are the ones starring in the movies. It’s turned crass movies into girl flicks that are good for ladies night out or even date night. So instead of fewer people ingesting this, there are more. That can’t be good.

3) Is it pure and lovely? Philippians 4:8 gives us a filter to use when deciding whether to see a movie or not.

“whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable—if there is any moral excellence and if there is any praise—dwell on these things.”

It’s hard to put Trainwreck through that filter and reach the conclusion that we should see it. Add Spy and Bridesmaids to the list too.

God works in each of our lives at His own pace. You may not agree with this post. Yet. There was a time not long ago when I thought any kind of media short of pornography was alright. But increasingly I’ve begun to see the importance of filling my mind with things that glorify God. It means I don’t get to see quite as much comedy as I used to, but my soul is thanking me.

The words of Psalm 139 are beautiful and powerful.

For you created my inmost being;
    you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
    your works are wonderful,
    I know that full well.
 My frame was not hidden from you
    when I was made in the secret place,
    when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
 Your eyes saw my unformed body;
    all the days ordained for me were written in your book
    before one of them came to be.

The powerful God who created the sun, moon, and stars is described in gentle, caring terms. Like a loving grandmother who knits together a sweater for her small grandchild, so our heavenly Father takes an interest in each and every one of us. This truth builds on the description in Genesis 1:27 of humanity being made in God’s image.

That’s why it’s an outrage when we discover doctors are careful about how they abort babies so they can protect the organs because there’s a market for them in the research world. But our outrage shouldn’t stop there. It’s equally outrageous when we find out senior citizens are being abused by the people who are supposed to care for them.

As Christians we have to be a light to the world concerning the sanctity of all people regardless of their stage of life. Every person you see is someone God made in His image. That needs to be the reason we express the value of life. It’s not because I say life (and body) has value or because you say so. It’s because the God of the universe made them and declared them good.

A few weeks ago at Village Church of Oak Park, I gave an evening lecture on heaven and hell. It was a simple, straightforward discussion of the Bible’s teachings on both of these important topics. At the end of the talk I promised that I would address questions not answered in the Q&A time on this blog. I will. I promise! Those answers will begin coming soon. But I wanted to alert you to an upcoming event where I’ll specifically discuss Christian Universalism.

Apologetics.com is hosting an Apologetics Conference in Lemont, IL on May 15 & 16. There are several good speakers who will be discussing a variety of topics. My breakout session will seek to offer a balanced understanding of what Christian Universalists believe (in their own words) and several refutations.

You can get more information about the conference HERE. If you attend, be sure to say hello!